Natalie Hunter – Escort

March 13, 2010

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?

Natalie Hunter

How old are you now?

Mid-20s

At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?

24

Describe your first professional sexual experience, including what happened, how you felt, what you were thinking, how you felt afterward.

My best friend had begun working as an escort a few years prior, shortly after we met. I thought she was insane at first, but as time went by, I admired and envied her more and more. She had always been beautiful, but being an escort seemed to make her even more attractive, both through the way she carried herself physically, and in her spirit and confidence. Her life seemed mysterious, sexy and forbidden to me.

As she was escorting, I was working a frustrating, poorly paying day job, and stuck in a very unsatisfying and  unhealthy relationship.  When my partner and I broke up, I went through a pretty promiscuous phase of my life where I just wanted to try everything. I had long fantasized about being paid for sex, and so I tried that, too. I lived in San Francisco at the time. A businessman visiting from New York wrote a Craigslist post where he was looking for a  non-pro to have a fun evening with—including drinks, strip clubs, and private time in his room.

I wrote to him introducing myself, and then we began exchanging emails. They got progressively kinkier, and I got more and more excited about meeting him. I liked using a stage name and taking on a new persona—all the fun, sexy, enchanting parts of my real self, condensed into an alluring alter ego. I remember later shopping for a dress to wear that night, awkwardly putting on pantyhose, slipping into high heels I hadn’t worn in years. At the time I had very little money and no sense of style. It all felt like such a costume, but I managed to put myself together enough to go out and meet him.

I was very nervous and considered backing out a hundred times, but he ended up being surprisingly handsome and really personable, and we had a wonderful evening. He bought me a lap dance at the strip club, and I’ll always remember how the dancer asked if he and I were together. I didn’t know what to say, so he interjected, “Tonight we are.” I loved the way that sounded.  Tonight we are together. The sex was exciting, passionate and raw; I felt far less inhibited than I had with any partners in my personal life.

As I was leaving his room, I remember this distinct feeling that an entirely new world had just opened up to me. I loved the feeling of the cash in my pocket—in a few enjoyable hours, I had made nearly a week’s salary at my day job. The whole city seemed to sparkle in a new way, and I realized that all rules could be broken, my story could be rewritten, and I could become someone new.

At what age did you entertain the first (serious) thoughts of going into sex work?

24

What made you decide to enter the line of work you’re in?

Money and excitement. Both are addictive. From that first night in San Francisco, I’ve been hooked, and never seriously considered stopping.

What do you enjoy most about your work?

I love traveling. I love the flexibility to work whenever I feel like it, never when I don’t, and only with people whose company I enjoy. I like meeting new people who I never would have met otherwise. I like meeting other sex workers and being part of a community. I like feeling justified when I spend ridiculous amount of money on lingerie and  makeup. I like feeling sexy. I like helping other people unwind, feel sexy and loved and appreciated. I love to be their dirty little secret, the thing they crave and fantasize about.

What do you like the least about your work?

The social stigma.

Does your family know what you do?  If so, what do they think?

No. No one in my life knows at all, except for fellow sex workers, who tend to be my favorite people anyway.

How much longer do you think you’ll do what you’re doing now, and what are your plans for when you quit?  If you’ve already left, what made you decide to leave and what did you decide to do for work when you left?

I have always worked a day job along with being a sex worker, and I hope to balance the two until I have a good reason to stop.

Describe your educational background.

I am in my first year of graduate school. I’m addicted to education—it’s what most of my money made through sex work has gone toward.

If you had to go back and tell your younger self (mid to late teens) that you’d be doing what you’re doing now  (assuming you’re still working in the sex industry), what do you think your younger self would say about it?

I would never have believed it! But actually, I always have had a deep interest in sex workers. As a kid, I remember seeing a prostitute being arrested on TV. She was resisting like crazy, and I asked my father what she had done wrong. “Do you know what sex is?” he asked my 7-year-old self. I only sort of knew, but I nodded anyway. “She does that for money,” he told me, “Gross, huh?” And I nodded again, though I remember not really understanding what was gross about it. I think back on that still, and am surprised at what an impression it made on me as I remember it over 15 years later.

What advice would you give someone who was looking to get into your line of sex work?

First, save your money. I’ve seen women get horribly addicted to the money and quickly begin living way outside their means. They then get themselves in a position where the need to do sex work to maintain their lifestyle. The work becomes very restraining and tedious, rather than freeing.

Second: Tell as few people as possible about what you’re doing. It sounds obvious, but it’s safe to assume that the two or three close friends you trust might have two or three close friends who they trust, and so on. Be very careful in selecting whom you choose to trust with personal information—you never want this work to damage your chances of succeeding in the “square world.”

Third: Think long-term and don’t be afraid to turn down work. If you get an uneasy feeling about someone, don’t see them. Sure, you’ll miss out on some short-term money, but difficult clients will make you hate your job and burn out. Hold out for good clients and treat them well.  It really is possible to meet amazing people through this experience  — take good care of those who take care of you!

Natalie’s Professional SiteNatalie Hunter

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Susanne – Sex Worker

December 15, 2009

susanneMoellerWhat is(was) your professional/stage/working name?

My real name is Susanne Møller

What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working)?

I am working in Copenhagen, Denmark

How old are you now?

I am 45

At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?

My first professional sexual experience I had at the age of 40

Describe your first professional sexual experience, including what happened, how you felt, what you were thinking, how you felt afterward.

I had, like many other women been fantasizing about being a hooker. I knew nothing about it, and thought that it must be degrading, but still had sexual fantasies about it. So I decided to try it, just for fun, as a part of a sex-game between me and my husband. I searched the Internet and found a place where they advertised with “grown, danish, women.”  I am all three, I thought, and sent a mail to the clinic. To my surprise they answered back and we arranged a meeting same day.

Next day I had the key to the clinic, I went there alone, borrowed a menu some of the other sexworkers at the place had left – and trembling I opened the door for the first client in the waiting room. “Yes, how can I help you?” I said, and he was kind to explain to me. :-)

All the customers that day were very kind, and I think they wanted to protect me a bit … almost all of them warned me against the other customers – said they would take advantage of me because I was new. :-)

At the end of my shift, I had a lot of money – and had experienced a lot of sex with nice men, most of them men that easily could have persuaded me to have sex with them for free.

At what age did you entertain the first (serious) thoughts of going into sex work?

I have never had any serious thoughts of going into sex work before I experienced what it was like.

What made you decide to enter the line of work you’re in?

The first day was fun, and I continued for 6 months – half a day every week – but still just for the fun of it. One day I realized that I had made so much money that I would have to register a firm. This is the law here in Denmark – if you make more than 50.000 kr over a year you have to register as a firm and pay a special kind of tax. If I did this, it would no longer just be for the fun of it. It would no longer be a secret game between me and my husband. I would be doing it to make a living out of it.

This is when I decided to be a sex worker. I thought it over carefully and I decided to stop working as a nurse and concentrate on sex work

What do you enjoy most about your work?

I enjoy the liberty. The fact that I am in charge. I decide how much I want to work, who I want to work with, and what kind of money I want for it.

I also enjoy the sex. I enjoy meeting a lot of different people and connecting to them through sex. I enjoy the short but intense meetings.

What do you like the least about your work?

For a long time I had to keep it a secret from my family and friends. I was protecting them from the stigma and shame connected with sex work. I no longer keep it a secret and every one has accepted it.

I don’t like that you in Denmark do not have the same rights as every body else, even though you have the same duties (pay tax) and even though sex work is legal. I don’t like that everybody thinks I am victim, and if I refuse to be a victim I am accused of being a cold-hearted luxus-hooker that doesn’t care about my college, about other peoples marriage – that I am only in it for the money, that I am not representative for other sex workers – should keep quiet and be ashamed.

Does your family know what you do? If so, what do they think?

Yes they know. They also know me and can see that I haven’t changed.  They can see I am happy doing what I do, and are satisfied with this.

Do you have a spouse, partner or significant other, and if so, do they know about what you do? If so, what do they think?

My husband knows about this. From the start this was a game between him and me. Now it is no longer a game, but my business and he supports me.

How much longer do you think you’ll do what you’re doing now, and what are your plans for when you quit? If you’ve already left, what made you decide to leave and what did you decide to do for work when you left?

It was an experience for me, starting in this business so late and I actually didn’t think I could attract customers at my age. But I can, to my own surprise and I continue this experience. I will stay in the business as long as I like it and as long as I can get customers enough to make a living of it

Describe your educational background.

I am educated as a nurse and have been working as a nurse for 15 years.

If you had to go back and tell your younger self (mid to late teens) that you’d be doing what you’re doing now (assuming you’re still working in the sex industry), what do you think your younger self would say about it?

What went wrong? :-)

What advice would you give someone who was looking to get into your line of sex work?

Seek help – talk to other people already in the business – try and find a sex worker organization in your country and contact them for advice.

Susanne’s Personal Blog: A Hooker’s Diary (In Danish)
Danish Sex Worker’s Right OrganizationSex Workers Interest Organization (In Danish)
Danish Site Similar to MFPSSex Work (In Danish)
Copenhagen Sex Worker Site Built by SIO for The Climate SummitCOP15 (In English)

[Editor's Note: With the exception of a few minor corrections to her English, the story is told by her in English]

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Benjamin – Male Escort

December 10, 2009

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
Benjamin
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
New York City
How old are you now?
22
At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?
18
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Scarlett Chaos/Mistress Curie – Sex Worker

December 5, 2009

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
I shoot porn as Scarlett Chaos, and do PSO and Domme work under the name Mistress Curie
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
Currently in Phoenix. In the past, Denver, and [...]

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Juliet – Escort

December 3, 2009

What is (was) your professional/stage/working name?
Juliet
What city(ies) do you work in now ?
Vancouver, BC
How old are you now?
22
At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?
22
Describe your first professional sexual experience, including what happened, how you felt, what you were thinking, how you felt afterward.
Well, earlier that day I decided [...]

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Caligula Sanchez – Rentboy

November 13, 2009

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
I blog under the name Caligula Sanchez at caligulasanchez.blogspot.com. I’m Multiracial (Korean, Tamil, Irish, Scottish) but my agency’s website list’s me as being Hispanic/Latino and gives me a hispanic sounding first name (i.e., Carlos, Pablo, etc. . .)
What do you call yourself. Or, how do you wish your [...]

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Claudia Bellocq – Former Escort

November 1, 2009

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
Claudia Bellocq now though just Claudia then, or Martine depending on which agent I was working for.
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
London UK
How old are you now?
Never you mind!
At what [...]

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Samantha – Escort

October 29, 2009

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
Samantha T. Jonez
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
I’m based out of New York, but I am available for companionship worldwide.
How old are you now?
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Christy – Fetish Supplier

October 24, 2009

What is your professional/stage/working name?
Christy

What city do you work in now?
Sydney Australia, but worldwide through my website

How old are you now?
25
At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?
21
What made you decide to enter the line of work you’re in?
Firstly I need to explain a bit about what I do. I’m [...]

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Cherry – Call Girl

October 22, 2009

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
Cherry
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
Phoenix mainly, but like to travel to San Diego, Orange County and Chicago
How old are you now? 38
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