What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
Benjamin
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
New York City
How old are you now?
22
At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?
18
Describe your first professional sexual experience, including what happened, how you felt, what you were thinking, how you felt afterward.
My first experience was doing a duo session with a well known mistress. I was more of a submissive at the time but I was supposed to be dominant in the session. It was one of my very first experiences having sexual contact with a guy.
At one point the mistress instructed me to finger the guy’s ass. I couldn’t hide my disgust with that. She told me to shut the fuck up and do it, and I did. It was not terrible.
At what age did you entertain the first (serious) thoughts of going into sex work?
Only a few days before I actually started doing it!
What made you decide to enter the line of work you’re in?
I did it a few times for kicks at first. It was fun, kinky and I made a little extra cash but when I lost my full time job I realized that I needed money and I was actually close enough to broke to become “desperate”.
Even though I was a straight male (and still consider myself straight in my personal life) I started giving blowjobs on Craigslist and also started to work with female partners. I have been paid as low as $50 and as much as $2500 in an hour. I have done videos, live shows, have had countless threesomes, been to more orgies than I can remember. I have a safe tucked away with only 100 dollar bills and its a pretty fat stack I have amassed!
What do you enjoy most about your work?
I love my female clients. About half of my female clients are providers themselves. A quarter are single career minded girls in their 20’s, 30’s who are too shy to date and another quarter of my female clients are bored housewives. I met one of my female clients at a sex party. She was there with her husband. He is a great guy; I love those two as friends. They love me too and it feels great to have clients who actually give a shit about you. One time she paid me to suck her husbands cock with her, it was her ultimate fantasy fulfilled and he later admitted to her that it was possibly the best blowjob he ever had! We shared his cum together, snowballing it back and forth, it was highly erotic for her and possibly above and beyond my usual call of duty, but I will go as far as I can for my clients, my only real limit is no unprotected intercourse and no heavy pain. Last time i went over there, we smoked some great weed, her husband whipped out a guitar and serenaded us with blues songs and Bob Dylan covers (Maggies farm and don’t think twice ) while I screwed his wife on their dining room floor!
After my well earned climax the real treat was after all that hot sex, she jumped into the kitchen to make me a panini with mozzarella and tomato and basil…so damn good and full of love. These people don’t treat me as an escort, they treat me as if I was their lover, son, friend, and confidante all in one, its quite a package, and while I still have my hooker poker face on and of course never get too personally entwined, its great to have a client like that, who actually loves you and thinks the world of you. its not just bs lines like some clients say in the heat of the moment, I’m talking about what it means to have a repeat client you actually care about and enjoy. that is simply the best you can ever have in this biz I believe.
What do you like the least about your work?
It’s inevitable that you have to kiss a lot of frogs; it can make you feel pretty low to spend an afternoon passionately kissing someone you find revolting. To be honest, I feel this way much more about my male clients. I love kissing girls, they are so cute and tasty!
Does your family know what you do? If so, what do they think?
I pray to god no. My mother would be suicidal, my dad would be disappointed, and sad, my sister would be shocked and shattered. My dogs would hate me.
The worst thing for me though is the way this job has made it so hard for me to look my parents in the eye, and my friends too. I also am not around much, and nobody can understand why I’m not available since I don’t have a good explanation. I’m a guy and nobody thinks I’m an escort though.
How much longer do you think you’ll do what you’re doing now, and what are your plans for when you quit? If you’ve already left, what made you decide to leave and what did you decide to do for work when you left?
I plan to be involved in the sex industry for as long as I possibly can. As a job I love it in so many ways. I am saving as much as I can because I am afraid it could end at any moment. But I would not mind doing this work for the next 5-10 years and than possibly doing something behind the scenes like making videos or running an escort service. It’s possible I may be capable of great things in other industries and I am in fact pursuing other careers simultaneously but if those fail than I will be in the sex industry. I don’t plan on quitting anytime soon but anything could happen. Maybe I will meet a really rich girl and fall in love and be whisked away. Maybe not? Love comes in spurts that’s for sure!
Describe your educational background.
I went to a well respected college for two years before I dropped out. It seems like people are supposed to go to college because society tells them to. I don’t want to be part of regular society. I feel very different from “civilians.” I have always felt different.
If you had to go back and tell your younger self (mid to late teens) that you’d be doing what you’re doing now (assuming you’re still working in the sex industry), what do you think your younger self would say about it?
I wouldn’t believe it for a second.
What advice would you give someone who was looking to get into your line of sex work?
I would say you will largely have to find your own path. You also need to be able to deal with the fact that you are an object and basically a sex toy in the eyes of most of your clients. You cant take it personally when a client calls you fat or decides not to go through with a session cause they do not find you as attractive as they hoped for (this happens less and less to me as I get better at this game) but still is always a possible. You have to be able to roll with the punches. sometimes you get shorted small amounts of money. I was recently shorted $28 lol and the guy has the nerve to think he’s cute and that I want to see him again. I have had bad checks written to me and I’ve had people threaten to call the cops on me (a common idle threat issued by frustrated clients who cant afford my rates or don’t like my pics) but I’m afraid one day its going to come down on me. I am paranoid that my neighbor is videotaping me. It’s an irrational fear but can one be too careful in this biz? I don’t know. At the end of the day, I’m just trying to make money, have some good sex and meet some good people and have some interesting experiences.
I would love to hear from fellow workers or anyone else curious about the biz.
Benjamin’s Professional Site: Benjamin Beckett
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You are a baby! Good for you. I love that you have your money stashed away. Be good to yourself, save and save and save and also think about your 40’s and 50’s what you want them to look like. Reach for the stars. You can do it! PS I am a sex worker too. I have bought a house and apartment in another country. Making mortgage payments sure, but I am getting there! Be debt-free and take time to smell the roses!