Caligula Sanchez

What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?

I blog under the name Caligula Sanchez at caligulasanchez.blogspot.com. I’m Multiracial (Korean, Tamil, Irish, Scottish) but my agency’s website list’s me as being Hispanic/Latino and gives me a hispanic sounding first name (i.e., Carlos, Pablo, etc. . .)

What do you call yourself. Or, how do you wish your work label to be listed?¹

The website calls me an escort but I really don’t care what you call me. Colloquially I’m a hustler or a rentboy, but I don’t mind being called a hooker or a hoe. I accept money in exchange for sex. I don’t have any delusions about what I do, but I don’t have any qualms about it either.

How old are you now?

I JUST turned 21 at the end of last month but my agency has listed me as 18 since I started with them in January. I’ll probably be 18 for a while.

At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?

Describe your first professional sexual experience, including what happened, how you felt, what you were thinking, how you felt afterward.

I started doing webcam shows online my freshmen year. My first time actually escorting happened at the beginning of the year. It was with an man in his late forties/early fifties. He’s a regular with my agency and was extremely gentle. I remember being super nervous but he was cool. He started by tracing the outline of my lips with his thumb and kissed me softly on my neck. This was a far cry from the sloppy sex I’d had with my boyfriend in high school. He tipped well afterwards. That’s the best I could hope for. When I left I felt a moltov cocktail of emotions. I was mostly excited and anxious. I’m really paranoid about someone writing down my license plate number, stalking me, killing me, and wearing my skin as a suit so I never take my own car. I took the train home and looked at the other passengers. How did they have sex? Did they ever pay for it? Did anyone ever pay them for sex? Could they tell I was a hooker? Could they see the dried cum stains on my neck?

At what age did you entertain the first (serious) thoughts of going into sex work?

I saw an ad for web cam guys on some porn site I was peeving on. I figured that I looked good enough to do that, So I did. Masturbating was what I would be doing anyway so I figured that it would be fun to have someone watch me and even more fun to get paid for it. And it was, on both counts.

What made you decide to enter the line of work you’re in?

Honestly? I thought it would be interesting. I wasn’t great looking in high school. I had a good build from wrestling, but I had acne and was closeted in a religious community. A good dermo and big ole glass of ‘bitch, get your mind right’ later, I learned to be comfortable with myself and eventually started to love myself. At some point I started doing webcam shows and I fell in love with the sexual empowerment.

What do you enjoy most about your work?

Hands down it would be the experiences. The gifts and trips are nice, and the sex can be fun too, but I’ve been privy to the kind of information that journalists would kill for. I’ve also discussed demilitarization in El Salvador with porn stars and the latest episodes of Mad Men with Elected Officials. Who else can say they’ve done that?

What do you like the least about your work?

I don’t honestly see how I’m going to be able to hold a healthy relationship. I mean, I could date someone in the business, but I don’t want to limit my options just because they’re in the business.

Does your family know what you do? If so, what do they think?

Absolutely not. My mom is extremely religious, as in she and her friends from church held an exorcism/intervention when I told her I was gay. I live in a different state than my family so that helps in keeping them in the dark. My parents and friends think that I’m an on call pharmacy technician in charge of inventory at one of those mail order pharmacy warehouses. It explains the money (well, the money they see) and the weird hours.

How much longer do you think you’ll do what you’re doing now, and what are your plans for when you quit? If you’ve already left, what made you decide to leave and what did you decide to do for work when you left?

I don’t know. I finish my undergrad in 2011. As far as medical schools go I’m looking at the biggest cities for hooking, NYC and D.C. because I could feasibly work one or two days a week and still make double what I make now.

Describe your educational background.

I’m currently on a full academic scholarship at university studying biochem. I just took the MCAT a few weeks ago so unless Mark Jacobs decides to adopt me as his boyfriend de jour, I’ll be starting medical school in the fall of 2011.

If you had to go back and tell your younger self (mid to late teens) that you’d be doing what you’re doing now, what do you think your younger self would say about it?

I probably wouldn’t initially believe myself but I’d be fascinated. I’d probably tell myself what butt sex felt like and to stop being so anxious about it.

What advice would you give someone who was looking to get into your line of sex work?

If I can quote Alastor “Mad Eye” Moody for just a second I would always recommend “CONSTANT VIGILANCE” (yes, that’s a Harry Potter reference). Watch body language and trust your instinct. You can always say no and you should never do ANYTHING you’re uncomfortable with. Also, when you’re starting off definitely sign with pretty reputable agency (read: they’ll take a huge ass chunk of what you’ll be making) that takes both physical and legal precautions for you.

Caligula’s Blog: Not In The Face
Caligula’s Twitter: @CaligulaSanchez