What is(was) your professional/stage/working name?
Eva, Mistress Eva.
What city(ies) do you work in now (if you’re still working), or did you work in (if no longer working in the sex industry)?
Dallas, NYC, and Boston thus far
How old are you now?
22
At what age did you engage in your first professional sexual experience?
18
Describe your first professional sexual experience, including what happened, how you felt, what you were thinking, how you felt afterward.
My first client was a Frenchman, actually. I found him a bit repulsive and pathetic, mostly because he had a dreadful accent and a microscopic penis, but he had a great personality. We met at a fancy (to my 18 year old self) restaurant and went from there to his place. He lived really far from me, but because I lived at home I absolutely could not under any circumstances host. And honestly it was for the best because I had no concept of personal safety then, not in the same way that I do now. He’d just moved and was so accomodating, I think, because he hadn’t been near a woman since he’d arrived. It was uneventful, the actual act, but before and after I enjoyed myself thoroughly. He was sweet, paid me for four hours, and cemented the idea of sex work as a real job in my mind.
At what age did you entertain the first (serious) thoughts of going into sex work?
16, I read so many books involving sex workers, even mainstream films like Breakfast at Tiffany’s made me want to do it. Girls would get so upset when I said that Holly was a hooker, but I knew the truth and I liked the truth.
What made you decide to enter the line of work you’re in?
I’d stopped doing sex work pretty soon after I started, and I’d stopped because I was burnt out. I didn’t see a lot of different men but I saw a few guys that were into me and paid me well….and I stopped caring about their wives, and stopped wanting to hear them say “Give me that black pussy” (How is my pussy different because I’m black? Do you know how absurd that sounds, what kind of asshole you sound like when you say that?), and stopped wanting to submit. I was 19 and tired of having sex, tired of men, and had more money than I knew how to spend.
Because I was young and flighty I quit school and traveled. I crossed the country and tried to figure out why I was angry and what I was going to do about it. It occurred to me that if I tried different kinds of sex work I may find a niche, so I did massages with an agency briefly but they took too much of my money and I’d been independent so that bothered me, I danced for a second, and I also worked as a waitress at a strip club, I could not leave the world of sex for money alone…working a day job made me nutty for the three months I did it. It think there is a bit of truth to the idea that once you are apart of this world it is hard to leave whether that’s because of money or not.
After a while of not working (I really had too much money) I answered an ad placed by a foot fetishist, and I was hooked. With escorting I’d become disillusioned with the idea of only being a hole, even if my guys thought I was incredibly interesting they came to me to fuck me and that wasn’t fulfilling after a few months. I wanted to feel powerful and very often men who see escorts are coming to you to feel that way…there can only be one captain, so I had to play submissive. There is a power in being the person someone depends on for their pleasure, but that wasn’t the kind I was looking for, I wanted upfront, direct power. This guy wanted to rub my feet and that was it, and the entire time he kept going on and on about how beautiful I was and how soft my feet were and I felt like a goddess. Immediately I knew I would never do anything else. He also paid more, $400 for 30 minutes of my time to be specific, and that definitely sweetened the deal.
What do you enjoy most about your work?
I’m the boss. I was my own boss initially but now I’m my own boss and I’m their boss! Actually I enjoy meeting people and figuring out how to speak to their kink. Showing up and immediately taking control of the situation works for some people, but some people need to be coaxed, it’s such an individual experience, I cannot explain it without making it blander than it is. I am someone’s fantasy, and when I play my clients are so appreciative and vulnerable, and they need me to be powerful, so I suppose the responsibility I have to assume is a big plus as well. And it is never boring.
What do you like the least about your work?
Because of the myriad fetishes I cater to things can get a bit….messy sometimes. I love my clients but there are generally fluids involved, theirs or mine, and I do not ever want to be involved in them but am always left with a mess! It’s a dirty gig.
Does your family know what you do? If so, what do they think?
My mom does know, and she thinks my stories are the most interesting she’s ever heard. I told her the night I saw the foot guy and was so worried she’d think ill of me and all she said was “If he ever needs another pair of feet to rub mine are available,” so I knew I could confide in her. And having her as a sanctuary has helped to keep me sane, when I see someone who makes me question why I do this (because their scene is particularly intense) I have someone to speak with. I do wish I knew other fetish workers but for now she’ll do.
How much longer do you think you’ll do what you’re doing now, and what are your plans for when you quit? If you’ve already left, what made you decide to leave and what did you decide to do for work when you left?
I plan on doing this for the rest of my natural life. This is what I was meant for. I really believe that. I do plan on doing other things while still working, if possible. I want to teach Philosophy to High School students so I am studying, I have the opportunity to travel so I do, and I want to write as well. I want to grow as much as possible intellectually and having the time to try and pry my way into Philosophical texts or study Feminist Theory is a plus. I’m indebted to the world and would also like to get into activism…there are sex workers in this world who get a rougher go of it than I could ever imagine. I am also in the process of enlisting in the Navy.
Describe your educational background.
I’ve been studying Philosophy for the past couple of years, now I’m thinking I will focus on Ethics as a specific area of Philosophy. I intend to get a doctorate, it’d be a coup to spank my way into a doctorate, seriously. I am also very interested in African American studies and have been thinking of transferring to a school where I can study both. For the record I’ve never met a dumb sex worker, we’re all pretty smart.
If you had to go back and tell your younger self (mid to late teens) that you’d be doing what you’re doing now (assuming you’re still working in the sex industry), what do you think your younger self would say about it?
I think she’d be geeked about it, she’d love it. I actually carry my High School ID in my wallet and look at it when I’m making a serious decision to keep me aware that I am indebted to that girl for her bravery and her heart and her intense need for freedom. I had wanted to move out of my moms house since I was 13, in a real way, I’d actually planned it down to rent and calculating what my gas/water/electricity would be every month, so it was inevitable that i’d find a way to exist without other people telling me what to do. If I could tell my old self what I do I’d probably just bypass escorting and go head first into Fetish Work!
What advice would you give someone who was looking to get into your line of sex work?
Know your shit. I see clients who have had such terrible experiences and I know there are women doing this who have no clue what they’re doing. It’s not good for your business if you have nothing but subpar sessions. No repeats means less money, point blank, there’s no way you’re going to have 20 different clients a month. Also, check to see what people are doing in your city before getting into this, you can figure out a way to corner a specific audience, that generates clients. Most importantly, you’re so beautiful and you have to know it before anyone else will, clients can sense you not feeling your best. Good luck!
Eva’s Twitter: @SuchaLady
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I can see why she doesn’t like “give me that black pussy,” but think of it for its novelty factor. I’ve never been with a black woman, so it would be a real change for me personally. I tell my white GF to “give me that pussy,” and if she had big breasts I’d probably comment on that too.
IOW being black is a feature, not a bug, and customers like me marvel at it.
My vagina would feel the same if my skin were a different color. There’s no way to make “give me that black pussy” sound like anything other than it is, an effort to “other” someone who isn’t all that different than the last woman you had sex with.
Why would sleeping with someone with a different color be such a huge change, I don’t ever think, “Wow this white guy is sooooooo much different than the hispanic guy I slept with.” I never understood that, and now I don’t have to worry about it, THANK GOD!
Thanks for commenting, D